Advice from Jack Canfield

Many of you may be familiar with Jack Canfield as a co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series of books. He is extremely inspiring and a true visionary. Recently I read an article that discussed a ritual that Jack does every single evening before bed. I thought if Jack sees the value in this exercise, then clearly it could be beneficial to others as well. It is called The Mirror Exercise and you will understand why. Many people, including myself at times, are self critical. We compare ourselves to others, create unrealistic expectations for ourselves, and beat ourselves up over trivial things. In order to boost your confidence and treat yourself with kindness, you need to really “see” yourself and accept who you are. Every single person is unique and special in their own way, so this exercise will help you see yourself in a different light. Remember to try this exercise every evening for at leas t 21 days. After 21 days you will have created a habit, and you will truly feel better about yourself and feel more comfortable in your skin.
1. See yourself
    This part of the exercise is probably the most uncomfortable, simply because you have not done this before. Go to your bathroom, close the door, and look at yourself in the mirror. Look at your eyes, really look at yourself from an outside perspective. “See” the real you. Then send as much light and love to yourself as possible. Just send love to the person you see in the mirror.
2. Say “I love you”
    I know some of you may think this exercise is a bit foo foo, but I guarantee it will dramatically shift how you see and feel about yourself, so there is no loss here. Look yourself in the mirror and say outloud to yourself ‘I love you’ and then include your full name. So, I would say ‘I love you Leslie Gail’. I know this is going to feel wierd and uncomfortable, but stick with it. Say this a couple of times until it feels ok.
3. Review your day
    Reflect over your day and think of 5 things you are proud of yourself for accomplishing. Large or small accomplishments, it simply doesn’t matter. Just come up with 5 things that you appreciate yourself for. “I am so proud of you for sticking to your diet today.” “I am so proud of you for going for that walk when you were really tired.” “I am proud of you for asking for that raise.” I know each and every one of you can think of 5 things. Remember this may be difficult at the beginning, but it will get easier as you go.
Have a great week!