In Jewish tradition, this time of year is about reflection and forgiveness. I think it is such a wonderful opportunity to stop everything in your life and contemplate more meaningful rituals and memories. We all do things we might not be proud of, and it is really important to recognize those things so you can work on changing and improving upon them. Maybe you treated a friend wrongly. Maybe you disrespected a colleague. Possibly you weren’t very affectionate or engaging with your partner. Whatever mistakes you made, it’s important to make amends and forgive yourself. If we never take the time to look within and improve our shortcomings, we will have a difficult time evolving spiritually or emotionally. I am always looking for opportunities to teach my children about life and the bigger picture. I strive to leave an imprint of looking within oneself, I feel this alone would make me feel fulfilled when they are grown. My mother had absolutely no hesitation when it came to improving herself. She was the queen of self improvement, and I am so blessed that this was passed down to me. By sharing the importance of forgiveness and striving to make oneself better, I feel I am giving my children and invaluable gift that will last a lifetime. This week take some time to reflect on the past year, and then look to the future with high hopes and aspirations.
ACTION TIPS FOR THE WEEK:
Get away from the chaos in your life for a short amount of time. Go for a walk. Get out a journal. Take a hike. Use this time as an opportunity to reflect on your previous year. What specifically comes to mind that you are not too proud of? Are there things you did that you regret? The point of this is not to beat yourself up, it is to open your eyes to what needs to be changed.
This is the important next step. Once you’ve highlighted the things you are not too proud of, it’s time to forgive yourself and/or make amends. If you need to apologize for your behavior, do it. If you need to take the high road and say you’re sorry, do it. You also need to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, each and every one of us, so let yourself off the hook. I guarantee that I make mistakes probably on a daily basis, but I try my best and that is all I can do.
• Look toward the future
Now that you have reviewed your past year, you’ve made amends and asked for forgiveness, it’s time to move on. It is pointless to get stuck in the mistakes of the past, they are mistakes and they are in the past, so leave them there. Now you need to decide how you are going to act differently in the upcoming year. You can’t better yourself without acknowledging everything first. Hold your head high and expect great things this next year!
Have a great week!