Nurture Your Marriage

My husband is so considerate when it comes to making me feel special and loved on a regular basis. This week-end he planned a get away, organized the kids sleeping at grandpa’s house, took care of dinner reservations, and created a wonderful evening. Any marriage takes work and consistency in order to maintain and keep the relationship flourishing. Especially in today’s stressful times, you need to at least have a loving and safe relationship to lean on. With the divorce rate being as high as it is, now is the time to nurture your marriage and learn the skills to keep it strong. Most individuals spend a lot of time and energy on things of little value. How much time do you devote to enriching your relationship? Do you often put your spouse first? Do you do things that make your spouse’s life easier? Do you consistently say “I love you” and show your appreciation for all they do? I have worked with many couple’s who get caught up in the trap of waiting for their partner to make the first move. This only leads to a negative cycle of built up resentment. This week is about treating your partner the way you would like to be treated. It is also about being proactive in creating your best marriage. If there is something that needs to be addressed, I will be offering free relationship consults this week only. Send me an email describing your situation and I will get back to you in a timely fashion. In the meantime, work on these simple tips this week.
1. Talk with kindness
     This is one of the most simple remedies when improving your relationships. How do you speak to your partner? When you argue, do you still speak with a level of respect? This week I want you to speak to your partner with love and kindness. Shower him or her with loving gestures. Say your “I love you’s” every day. Tell them you appreciate them. Kindness will always work in your favor.
2. Designate date nights or date days
     It is very important to set aside time with your significant other. This time needs to be away from distractions and daily stress. Whether you meet once a week for dinner or meet during the day for a quick lunch, this time is crucial to your long-term longevity as a couple. Instead of waiting for your partner to plan something, this is your week to take the lead. Call a sitter or relative and pencil in a date with your spouse.
3. Fine tune the art of listening
    For all the men out there, this is the best piece of advice you will ever receive. The simple act of listening to your wife or significant other, will make her feel loved and special. Listening, and I mean really listening, is an art that needs to be practiced. Ask your partner how they are doing and then really listen to what they say. This is not the time to “fix” anything, it is simply listening with an open ear. Practice this week and see what happens.
Have a great week!